He Cheated, It’s Over, but You’re Still Sleeping With Him
When a newly divorced mother starting over begins dating again, sooner or later the desire for sex arises. This can put her in a precarious position where she finds herself scared about how she will explain herself to her kids, as well as wonder if she can actually go through with sleeping with a new man.
As a result, the idea of having sex with her ex-husband becomes extremely tempting. After all, she’s not dealing with unfamiliar terrain. She’s accustomed to his patterns and knows his body, what he’s working with and how well he does it. She’s also aware of what he likes, doesn’t like and how long it will last. They also share a history with one another, so at times, it will feel like the emotional flame is being re-kindled. This makes her glow inside and wonder if the two of them may eventually work things out after all. Her kids will enjoy seeing Mommy and Daddy looking happy together, and even start to behave better in hopes it will be the secret to keeping things like this.
Should I Have Sex with My Ex-Husband?
Unfortunately, even though your heart and body cannot tell the difference, it’s just not the same anymore. He cheated on you, or you cheated on him and the relationship is over. At this point, you two aren’t seeing eye-to-eye on what you’re doing. While you’re convinced he’s giving you a passionate, emotionally charged sexual rendezvous to win you back, chances are, he’s simply sexing you to get his nut off while the getting is good. You may speak of a reunion or treat him like a king afterward, but those are just things he’ll consider come with the territory and may not protest since it would mess up his free sex supply.
Imagine how you will feel if you decide not to tread lightly in your decision and you fall in love with him again, only to find out his feelings are no longer the same. You were just his new booty call and he’s realized that he’s even over that. That would be a painful situation to deal with, and can be easily avoided as long as you resolve that you two will not have sex again until he’s proved himself worthy on your personal terms.
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Here here! I couldn't agree with you more. I have wondered or asked those whose prettier, whose better, etc. etc. questions and it really doesn't matter, you are right. It's either responded with a lie or avoidance. Contacting her would only to be to "cuss her out" but what good would that do? It would make it worse because she would know that her actions did exactly what she wanted, made him fall for her when he should have been falling for me. Just started reading your blog…LOVE IT!