TIGER, JESSIE, TIKI or REGGIE?

It’s already April 2010 and we’ve been inundated with crazy celebrity infidelity stories:

• Thanksgiving 2009 gave us Tiger Woods and his dirty dozen. Theman’s lost millions, if not billions, in endorsement deals, and is still apologizing for it to this very minute. Elin hasn’t said a peep, but appears to be sticking by him. His whores, on the other hand, are demanding apologies.
• New Orleans Saints’ RB Reggie Bush and Kim Kardashian played on-again, off-again a few times before calling it quits in March 2010. Summer 2009 revealed that Bush had been sleeping with booty model Carmen Ortega; this time around he’s been rumored to have been with a leggy blonde waitress.
• Sandra Bullocks’ reality star husband Jesse James was caught getting it in with glamour model Michelle McGee. Robbing Bullock of the opportunity to bask in the afterglow of her Oscar win for The Blind Side wasn’t enough; McGee was exposed in a pro-Nazi photoshoot and James has been rumored to be racist as well. Other mistresses have come forward, citing James’ love of busty babes.
• Hot off the press, former New York Giant Tiki Barber has not only revealed that he’s been engaged in a long-term sexual affair, but Barber’s leaving his wife for an intern. Wait, it gets better: Barber’s wife is currently 8 months pregnant with twins. So what should be the most glorious time of their lives is ruined because this guy had the hots for a 23-year old blonde bimbo- and just had to reveal his split on his 35th birthday.

So Which Celebrity Cheater Is Sleaziest?

Tiger’s had numerous slut-buckets but none of them have seen a dime or know what the inside of his house looks like, unlike Bush, whose jump-off Ortega made a public video touring his home. So on that end, it’s been nothing but “hard dick and bubblegum” as they say. Yet Bush, on the other hand, seemed to have led Kim on, a big “no-no” for many women.

But Bush isn’t destroying Kardashian’s image; the reality star and socialite still holds several endorsements and businesses, making her a celebrity powerhouse. James’ trysts are destroying Bullock’s image; Blind Side was a “feel-good” movie about crossing racial barriers and loving people regardless of color. Now, all people think about is the allegedly pro-Nazi, racist personality of James and McGee. Let’s not mention the possible homemade Nazi sex tape between Bullock and James, complete with a “Dirty Sanchez.” Oh, the irony.

Yet, does anything top the fact that your husband – a man you’ve dedicated your life to throughout his entire NFL career – has no respect for you or his family? I mean, men, famous or unknown, rich or poor, cheat on women everyday. Sexual infidelity sucks period, but to knock up your wife of 16 years with twins and then leave her right before she’s due for 23-year old blonde bimbo meat? On your birthday? Woooooooow. You go bro!

Weigh in with us… who’s the sleaziest cheater this year so far? We-thinks it’s Barber…

He Gave Me HPV: I Want Answers

Ellie:

I have been married for 23-years.  Last year I found out about a one-night stand my husband had eight years ago. He was never going to tell me and was taking it to his grave.  Unfortunately, it came out last year and I was devastated.  We are trying to work thru the pain and save our marriage.  However, I find it very hard to get him to talk about that event. How do I or should I get him to reveal the details for that night.  I feel unless we both understand what happened we will never completely move on in our marriage and infidelity will happen again.  Unfortunately for me, I contracted an STD (HPV) out of this one-night fling beneath the sheets and lied about any affair when asked. I have since been cleared of HPV but it took 6 long years.  This still makes me angry and I feel I have every right to be.

Please advise.

Every Right to Be Mad

Every Right,

You have every right to be mad at your husband’s one night stand. Not only was he careless in stepping outside of your marriage for sexual indulgence, but your husband gave you HPV, something that may be forgiven, but never forgotten.

Before I continue, I will address your husband’s reluctance to giving you details of his sexual affair. More than likely, your husband does not want to relive his one night stand, or provide you the explicit play-by-play on what happened. He might feel ashamed, or simply think it’s none of your business. Overall, what’s important is that you know :

1) He cheated on you.

2) He had unprotected sex with the other woman.

3) He gave you HPV, and that’s disgusting.

4) Your life will never be the same again – neither will your marriage.

If you really feel you need to know the sexual details of his one night stand, ask yourself why. I understand that you feel knowing provides closure and prevents him from cheating again, but there’s really no guarantee that he won’t cheat again. He might not, but either way, understanding why it happened is as simple as:

1) He had a reason.

2) He had opportunity.

3) He had a desire to do it.

4) He took advantage of all the above – and willfully so.

Tips for Dealing with Your Husband’s Infidelity:

1. His confession is telling of his character. How did your husband confess? Did he voluntarily admit this information in couples’ counseling or during a nasty argument? Exploring the manner in which you discovered this will help you reveal the motive behind his confession, whether he meant to hurt you, his back was against the wall or to start with a clean slate because he felt guilty. If his motive was anything but guilt or the desire to come clean, add “douche bag” to his list of character traits.

2. Determine what factor(s) led to his sexual infidelity, don’t dwell on the details of the infidelity. Cheaters, especially men, are always assumed to be in it for sex, but this isn’t the absolute truth. Many men report not feeling emotionally satisfied as a main motivation for cheating on their wives; plenty also report they simply wanted sex and figured they wouldn’t get caught if they dipped their hand in another woman’s cookie jar. Reasons vary from person to person, and can be a number of factors, so be sure to explore all the options. (One expert says there can be over 17 different types of affairs and motivations for affairs.)

3. Do not take his one night stand personal. Yes, he cheated but it does not mean you’re to blame. Your husband might not have been happy with you or your marriage when he had a sexual rendezvous, but what did he do to address his unhappiness? Additionally, you have had your share of unhappy moments in the time you’ve been together, but have you used this as a reason to justify extramarital affairs with other people?

4. Observe your husband. How does your husband act and what has he done to win your love and trust back? A husband who doesn’t care may be callous or indifferent to what happened, and will be hard-pressed to take action. Dismissive, indifferent and defensive attitudes may indicate an unwillingness to accept responsibility, deal with the past or move forward in holy matrimony. A repentant husband will show – in both words and actions – how invested he is in saving your marriage. He will not care if he has to face the pain in the past as long as it means there’s a chance his future includes you.

5. Don’t trust him to protect you. Protect yourself! Though I am not a doctor, and I cannot give you medical advice, I personally would not trust someone who cheated on me to protect me once they’ve given me HPV. Speak with your doctor about the best methods of protecting yourself in the event your husband steps out again.

If you have discovered or suspect infidelity in your relationship, take every action to practice safe sex. Some methods of safe sex include use of condoms and regular testing. Speak with your doctor or check out these safe sex tips from Planned Parenthood.

Sex Tips For Divorce After Infidelity

Enjoying an active and fulfilling sex life is of the biggest milestones you’ll have to overcome during or after your divorce after infidelity by a cheating husband. If your ex-husband cheated on you during your marriage, sex can trigger several emotional responses including fear of rejection and insecurity, not to mention confusion.

Simple Steps to Setting Guidelines for Sex After Divorce or Breakup

1. 1. Fully evaluate whether you’re ready to experience sex. Are you truly capable of enjoying sexual intimacy at this stage in your life? If your ex-spouse cheated on you, feelings of sexual insecurity after being cheated on may subconsciously plague you, making sex with anyone more stressful than it should be.

2. Know what you want. Do you prefer the casual, emotionally detached nature of non-committal, no-strings-attached sex? Does the thought of a one night stand turn your stomach? Understanding your emotional personality and being true to it will help you avoid unnecessary emotional baggage, especially if you know you cannot handle a casual sexual experience.

3. Evaluate your emotional and sexual baggage. If you haven’t “let go” of your last relationship’s baggage, be aware sex with someone new can trigger more problems. You should also be aware of whether or not your desire to have sex is motivated by the need to feel sexually validated by someone new, or as a means of “getting back” at your ex. Neither are healthy reasons to have sex.

4. Have sex when you’re ready- and with someone you choose to. Pressure to “hurry up and get laid already” from your friends may be an effort to lift you out of your mood, but it can backfire quickly. The best sex happens when you’re comfortable and open to sex, ideally with someone you like and have a strong physical attraction to. Don’t give in to pressure, whether your partner’s or your peers, to have sex if it just doesn’t feel right. It’s not their business anyway.

5. Be aware of the pros – and cons – of sex with someone new. Sex with a new partner can remind you of how hot and desirable you really are, no matter what happened in your marriage. You’ll be reminded of how sexy and attractive you are; this is always a good thing, especially if you can separate sex from your emotions. However, if you’re not ready, there are tons of risks to having sex again. If you don’t have closure in your relationship, the potential for emotional baggage is high. You’ll also be at risk for sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) and pregnancy.

There’s no ideal timeline for when it is too early or too late to start enjoying sex after divorce; the timing for everyone varies according to individual needs and desires. Take as much or as little time as you need to, and remember to protect your body, mind and spirit at all times before anything else.

Need More Tips on Sex and Dating After Divorce?

If you’re a divorced man interested in finding true, faithful love after divorce from infidelity, check out Finding the Right One After Divorce: Avoiding the 13 Common Mistakes People Make in Remarriage by Edward Tauber and Jim Smoke.

If you’re a divorced woman who’s interested in discovering great secrets to successful dating after divorce, check out Back on Top: Fearless Dating After Divorce by Ginger Emas.

Sandra Bullock’s Cheating Husband Jesse James Can’t Keep It Zipped For Sh*t!

2009 and 2010 must be the beginning of a new era of boldly wild celebrity sex scandals. First, there were Tiger Woods’ crazy sexual affairs with a harem of whores, including an extra special one who wanted a personal apology from Woods himself (keep dreaming slut!). Of course, Woods, who admitted to feeling “entitled to cheat,” has since apologized- but only to his wife and the public. Though he’s not completely out of the woods just yet, but he’s been blindsided by an even more impressive scandal – Sandra Bullock and Jesse James. (All cheesy puns totally intended!)

2010 had been a good year so far for Bullock. After receiving several Oscar nominations for her pivotal role in feel-good movie The Blind Side, Bullock, 45, won for Best Actress. Set to hit the red carpet for the British premiere of The Blind Side, PR reps cancelled her arrival “due to unforeseen circumstances.” It was later revealed those unforeseen circumstances were the discovery of husband James’ 11-month sexual affair with trashy tattoo model Michelle McGee while Bullock was filming The Blind Side.

As if this crazy mess wasn’t already interesting enough, photos of McGee in a lewd, overtly sexual Neo-Nazi spread surfaced days later, further tarnishing the couple’s image by association. James’ exes have also come forward, revealing that this isn’t the first – or the last – time he’s cheated on his woman. And to date, at least three more women have surfaced with juicy claims that they too have had a roll in the hay with James, 40, during his five year marriage to Bullock.

Bullock’s Previous Infidelity Experiences

During an Entertainment Tonight interview, Bullock previously revealed that she had been cheated on, and admitted to having cheated herself. Having learned from that experience, she was as saying, “It was the stupidest thing I ever did. You take away respect from the other person. If you respect the other person enough and you are an honorable person, before it gets to that point, you say, ‘Hey listen, I’m getting ready to screw up and I know you’re going to leave’ and you give the person the right to walk.”

Ironically, Bullock called Tiger Woods’ wife Elin’s behavior during his sex scandal “respectable,” adding that she’d have kept hitting Woods and got “everything out.”

Since the scandals broke, Bullock hasn’t been heard from. We can only imagine how crushed and upset the situation is, especially considering how the whole affair almost completely overshadows one of her crowning career achievements. If she’s holding true to her words, she’s probably too busy putting her batting practice to good use.

Get ‘em Sandy!

Sexual Affairs and His Midlife Crisis

There are so many times when cheating seems to be about something the wife or girlfriend does or doesn’t bring to the relationship. When a woman is cheated on, it’s common for her to think it has something to do with how she looks or her sexual prowess.

Despite the fact that these might be valid concerns, most women have nothing to fear; the majority of cheating men feel very attracted and connected to their women. Usually, the reason why a man cheats is an internal issue, a personal conflict that may have some relation to his relationship with his wife or girlfriend, but truly reflects his own character.

One of the biggest reasons men cheat on their loving wives or girlfriends is to see if he’s “still got it,” that it being charm, game, and panache to pull and entice women. Most of the time, you can observe this type of infidelity during a man’s midlife crisis or other major life events.

Loss of Confidence in Men and Cheating

To understand how a midlife crisis can inspire a once devoted husband’s sexual infidelity, you have to get inside his mind. Often, as relationships stabilize and become routine, passion dies and a sense of normalcy takes over. Predictability is usually a comforting and reassuring aspect of daily life in committed relationships, but it further deadens the sense of excitement and aliveness a couple feels. When conflicts, commitments and obligations are added to the mix, some men feel all but dead and drained by what was once a sexually blissful, romantic relationship.

Men who are too immature to handle their emotions and/or poor conflicts internalize the negativity or boredom of their relationships and its related conflicts as reflections of who they’ve become. Even though most conflicts are resolved within time and the couple maintains a strong bond, insecure men can allow their confidence to nosedive with each struggle. Worried, these men wonder if they’ve become former shells of who they once were: confident, successful and charismatic men who knew how to hook a woman with passion and keep her coming back for more.

Cheating Husband Seeks to Validate Himself

Instead of recognizing that he needs to reconcile those feelings within himself, a cheating husband steps outside the marriage. His efforts to validate himself are not a means of intentionally hurting his wife or girlfriend. They’re more of his attempt to reassure himself that even though his woman’s used to him, he’s still a dashing, charismatic ladies’ man who still possesses the power to capture a woman’s attention.

When he has a sexual affair and captures the heart and attention of another woman, he does so with the intention of giving himself a pat on the back. The other woman, no matter how sexy or beautiful, in the long run is nothing but a means to an end; she’s helping him on his quest to prove his worth to himself. Once the affair is revealed and reconciled, hindsight will prove her little more than a then-needed ego boost, however temporary.

Cheating men foolishly seek out these sexual affairs an effort to prove themselves attractive and loveable in the eyes of women other than their wives and girlfriends, who they assume are just “too used to them.” Though this affair serves some purpose by invigorating cheating husbands with renewed confidence, it comes at the risk of devastating their marriages and wives’ trust. Despite what people think, it doesn’t matter why someone does it; infidelity sucks, period. Upon discovering your husband’s shocking affair, you may feel sickened. Learning that his reasons were even more selfish than suspected my have you disgusted to the core, and wondering whether this relationship is worth saving.

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Can a Threesome Make Him Cheat?

If you’re into good romantic fiction, Carl Weber is a great author. His books usually center on several different relationship-based themes, ranging from infidelity to marriage. Unlike most authors, he has a really keen grasp of relationship issues from both male and female standpoints.

We just finished reading Weber’s Something On the Side, an engaging novel about a group of friends all dealing with having more than one relationship in some aspect of another. One character is constantly pressuring her man for a ring, while her ex begs her back in his life. Another character is struggling with intense feelings for a man after being in a controlling relationship for so long. And yet another character juggles different men to pay the bills.

Yet, the most intriguing component of this story deals with a devoted, faithful wife who wants to fulfill her husband’s ultimate fantasy: a ménage a trios. When you read the story, you discover even though it’s a thoughtful birthday present, the husband isn’t pressed to have one. In fact, the husband doesn’t think it’s a good idea at all, but the wife persists and even pays her best friend $5,000 plus perks to help her turn her husband out.

Well, long story short, the best friend and the wife give the husband the time of his life – and the wife doesn’t enjoy it as much as she expected to. Instead, she actually feels kind of slighted and left out because it seemed as if he’s paying more attention to the “new booty” in his bed and ignores the wife. All the moans and groans and the special things he does while in bed with her, he does with her friend, all of which does not sit well with her.

As the story progresses, the wife becomes extremely insecure and jealous as she replays the events in her head from that fateful night. The marriage takes a turn for the worse as she accuses her husband of wanting to continue an affair with the best friend- and even suspects him of sleeping with her. With their marriage on the rocks, the husband devises a crazy plan to put their romantic life back together, but it backfires in a way you would have never expected.

Now, after reading all this craziness, we can’t help but wonder the following:

-         Is it possible, or even necessary, for a wife to fulfill all of her husband’s fantasies?

-         If your man wanted a threesome, would you go through with it for him?

-         If you wanted a threesome, would your man be down for one?

-         If he enjoys the threesome, is it license for him to start sleeping with other women?

-         Can anyone truly handle watching their partner have sex with someone else-and enjoying it?

What are your thoughts?

3 Affair Components to Spice Up Your Marriage

Spice up your marriage by taking a few tips from sexual affairs. Remember, high levels of mutual satisfaction between affair partners is one of the reasons why cheating, though wrong, can be enjoyable in the moment. When you spend time with someone in a naturally spontaneous, energetic and sensual, exciting environment, it adds a spark to your relationship.

Relationship and marriage author Dave Carder asserts that an affair contains three irrefutable components: adolescent sexuality, adult mobility and childhood magic. Here’s how to include these aspects in your relationship to increase satisfaction with your partner.

Childhood Magic – Take a Whimsical Day Off with Your Husband

Childhood magic refers to freedom of responsibility and fixed routine in your life. Essentially, to capture childhood magic in your relationship, you two will have to whisk each other away into your own little world. Periodically, you need to incorporate childhood magic into your relationship by periodically getting away from your normal routine with your spouse and doing “whatever” you two wish to do. Eat what and where you want, visit wherever you wish and do whatever you’d like together.

Adolescent Sexuality – Recapture Sexual Fever – Make Passionate, Exciting Love to Your Man!

Adolescent sexuality is characterized by excitement, anticipation and spontaneity, “oblivious to the circumstances” surrounding it. Remember when you and your lover first started exploring each other’s bodies? The sex was most likely sexy, lusty, passionate and thrilling; now, not so much.

Add the sexual spice back into your marriage by taking sex out of the bedroom and keep it from becoming routine. Make an effort to seduce or surprise your lover, even when he or she may not do the same for you. A quickie in your car can be highly invigorating to your sex life- even if it’s in your parked car in your driveway or garage while the children are asleep.;-)

Adult Mobility – Plan a Sexy Getaway with Your Spouse

When people have affairs, they sneak time away from their normal lives to see each other, enhancing the anticipation and excitement and increasing the feelings of appreciation between one another. Even if they only have 90 minutes and it’s 30 minutes both to and from their meeting place, the illicit couple will enjoy the precious 30 minutes they have together.

As adults, and couples, we start to take for granted the freedom we have to travel and “do what we want to do.” Travel with your partner on a semi-regular basis and get away with them. Invite your wife on a business trip with you, even if you have to spend most of the day away from her. Book a suite at a local hotel for the weekend, just to have a sense of “getting away from it all.”

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As you can see, it’s not hard to spice up your marriage; it just takes some creativity and know-how. Hopefully these ideas will encourage some sexy, lusty activity between the two of you that can reignite passion that’s just like having an affair!

Cheating Men Reveal # 1 Reason for Cheating

Neuman and Oprah discuss cheating men and sexual infidelity live.

Cheating men are assumed to have sexual affairs for strictly sexual purposes. People always assume the desire for more sex, better sex, exciting sex or just having sexual variety is all most cheating men care about. The argument that men are easily visually stimulated, and can never have enough “sex” or “women” is also a frequent justification for why men stray.  “Men are just highly sexual creatures, they can never get enough, and they always want variety,” some argue. “It’s just in their nature.”

92 % Cheating Men: “Sex Not Important!”

Despite the popularity of the explanation, this assumption couldn’t be further from the truth according to M. Gary Neuman. Neuman, author of The Truth About Cheating: Why Men Stray and What You Can Do to Prevent It found, through independent research, that only 8 percent of philandering husbands acted from being sexually unhappy. “This means, for 92 percent of the men cheating in the United States, it’s not about sex,” explains Neuman.

Instead, Neuman’s research, which appeared on a series of episodes on Oprah,  asserts that a whopping 48 percent of men who reported having affairs were emotionally dissatisfied. Another 32 percent cited an equal amount of sexual and emotional dissatisfaction. Overall, 59 percent of cheating men felt emotionally unhappy compared to only 29 percent who were only sexually dissatisfied. Only 12 percent of men weren’t experiencing any unhappiness, or cited reasons other than sexual or emotional dissonance.

Further substantiating their claims of emotional distress, 37 percent of cheating men reported that feeling underappreciated by their wives was a major cause of their unhappiness. Another 17 percent felt “emotionally disconnected” from their woman. These two sentiments combined account for 54 percent of the problem these men felt in regards to the emotional relationship they had with their spouse, outweighing lack of communication (11 percent), no longer sharing the same values (10 percent) and having a wife that lost her temper too often (12 percent).

Neuman remarks that issues such as emotional connection and appreciation are seen as complaints only women would have, which perpetuates “the big lie” that women are “the emotional ones, whereas men are like rocks… only needing sex to be happy.”

Cheating Men: Keep Him from Becoming One

While it’s true that men are strong, they also have egos that need to be stroked; everyone does. Most men will tell you that they don’t require you to share every mushy detail and thought you have, but they would highly appreciate it if you showed them your gratitude or nurtured them through your actions on a consistent basis. Doing things like offering your husband his favorite meal every once in a while, giving him a full body massage or a foot rub, surprising him with an afternoon devoted to his desires or simply verbalizing your appreciation for a task well done are all ways that send a message that you not only notice what he does, you acknowledge and appreciate him for it.

Taking this information, try to consider times where your partner has stepped up to the plate and handled his business, and you may not have been appreciative of his efforts. Maybe he washed the kids and put them to bed, only to be met with “Honey I’ve got a headache.” Perhaps he attempted to cook breakfast, and you laughed at his awkwardness around the kitchen. These things may not be serious to you, but you never know the affect it may have had on your partner. Make an attempt to show more gratitude in how he assists you in different things. This not only boosts the sense of connectedness between the two of you, it builds intimacy and reassures your husband that he’s good enough. Remember, for most of us – cheating men included- it’s the little things that matter. Here are three  proven strategies to prevent cheating in a relationship.

“Cheating Boyfriend Claims an Open Relationship” 

You catch your boyfriend cheating, and you’re terribly pissed. After mulling it over, you make the decision to let him know you’re aware that he’s been double-dipping his chicken nugget back and forth between your savory barbecue and her acrid sweet n’ sour sauces. But to your amazement, confronting your man takes a meaty, tangy twist of its own. Instead of apologizing, or denying his sexual infidelity, your man states that he figured you two had an “open” relationship, in a casual, hand-in-his-jean-pockets-as-he-shrugs kind of matter.

Open Relationship? Sexual Affair? Who’s Right?

So is your cheating boyfriend a swinger? Are you guys in an open relationship? Well, these answers all depend on a few things. First, let’s clarify some facts about open relationships as well as sexual infidelity.

Sexual Affairs & Open Relationships Have Nothing in Common

Open Relationships and sexual infidelity have nothing in common. An open relationship might imply that your beau never agreed to be sexually monogamous with you, but these things should have been clearly spelled out when the both of you have agreed to pursue a relationship.

 Sexual infidelity is in no way, shape, or form comparable to open relationships; it’s quite the opposite. Sexual infidelity relies upon dishonesty and deception, mainly in a deliberate and continuous sense. Sexual affairs work to the contrary of open relationships; cheating contains a deceptive character to it which thrives best on deliberately betraying pre-established boundaries and expectations on how the relationship will operate. Cheating men cheat. Polyamorous men have many lovers and build healthy rules with how they operate.

Open relationships, as previously explained, are cultivated with communication, acceptance, respect and honesty. You just cannot be in an open relationship where only one of you knows what’s going on. Open relationships have rules and regulations, boundaries and agreements just as a “traditional” relationship does.

Relationships without Boundaries Leave Room for Mistakes, Confusion

So, prior to this revelation, did you both clearly establish that you two were a couple? Did you both agree to have a faithful, emotionally or sexually monogamous relationship? Or did you just as easily assume you guys were monogamous as easily as he assumed you guys weren’t?

If you determine that your partner has truly never formalized your relationship as a committed, monogamous one, then you’ll have to eat this situation, and re-evaluate what’s really good with your relationship. Perhaps you’re not interested in a love triangle… or square… or hexagon (man, I can go on!)… and if this is the case, maybe it’s time to get over your new ex-boyfriend and find new love with someone who wants to make you his wife one day.

Now if you know, simply just know, that you guys were supposed to be sexually and emotional faithful, and seriously feel this explanation is a load of *expletive*, then by all means, do what you have to do and tell him to shove it where the sun doesn’t shine. There’s no reason to try and work through an issue like this if he’s blatantly dishonest, even while you’re open to consideration. It doesn’t matter whether or not you would have had an open relationship with him; the truth of the matter is he is lying to avoid taking responsibility for his dishonorable actions.

…Considering the Open Relationship?

You might be disappointed about your cheating boyfriend’s sexual affairs, but then become somewhat fascinated by the idea of doubling or tripling your suitor ratio from 1:1 to 3:1. If so, this is your right. However, keep in mind that while open relationships work with a different foundation than traditional, one-man-dates-one-woman, courtships, there are still rules to follow. Yes, the rules may be a little more fluid and flexible in general, but overall, there may still be guidelines regarding emotional and sexual boundaries in these relationships.

So, What Are You Thinking?

He’s a damn trip! I need a real man! How can I avoid these jerks!?

Two boyfriends, you say? Hmmm… I’m curious. Tell me more!

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