Do Threesomes Destroy Good Relationships?

Can a Threesome Make Him Cheat?

 If you’re into good romantic fiction, Carl Weber is a great author. His books usually center on several different relationship-based themes, ranging from infidelity to marriage. Unlike most authors, he has a really keen grasp of relationship issues from both male and female standpoints.

 We just finished reading Weber’s Something On the Side, an engaging novel about a group of friends all dealing with having more than one relationship in some aspect of another. Read more

3 Spicy Things to Learn From Affairs

3 Affair Components to Spice Up Your Marriage

High levels of mutual satisfaction between affair partners is one of the reason why cheating, though wrong, can be enjoyable in the moment. When you spend time with someone in a naturally spontaneous, energetic and sensual, exciting environment, it adds a spark to your relationship.

Dave Carder asserts that an affair contains three irrefutable components: adolescent sexuality, adult mobility and childhood magic. Here’s how to include these aspects in your relationship to increase satisfaction with your partner.

Childhood Magic

Childhood magic refers to freedom of responsibility and fixed routine in your life. Essentially, to capture childhood magic in your relationship, you two will have to whisk each other away into your own little world. Periodically, you need to incorporate childhood magic into your relationship by periodically getting away from your normal routine with your spouse and doing “whatever” you two wish to do. Eat what and where you want, visit wherever you wish and do whatever you’d like together.

Adolescent Sexuality

Adolescent sexuality is characterized by excitement, anticipation and spontaneity, “oblivious to the circumstances” surrounding it. Remember when you and your lover first started exploring each other’s bodies? The sex was most likely sexy, lusty, passionate and thrilling; now, not so much.

Add the sexual spice into your relationship by taking sex out of the bedroom and keep it from becoming routine. Make an effort to seduce or surprise your lover, even when he or she may not do the same for you. A quickie in your car can be highly invigorating to your sex life- even if it’s in your parked car in your driveway or garage while the children are asleep.;-)

Adult Mobility

When people have affairs, they sneak time away from their normal lives to see each other, enhancing the anticipation and excitement and increasing the feelings of appreciation between one another. Even if they only have 90 minutes and it’s 30 minutes both to and from their meeting place, the illicit couple will enjoy the precious 30 minutes they have together.

As adults, and couples, we start to take for granted the freedom we have to travel and “do what we want to do.” Travel with your partner on a semi-regular basis and get away with them. Invite your wife on a business trip with you, even if you have to spend most of the day away from her. Book a suite at a local hotel for the weekend, just to have a sense of “getting away from it all.”