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Cheating Husband's One Night Stand Results in HPV

He Gave Me HPV: I Want Answers Ellie: I have been married for 23-years.  Last year I found out about a one-night stand my husband had eight years ago. He was never going to tell me and was taking it to his grave.  Unfortunately, it came out last year and I was devastated.  We are [...]

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Infrequent Sex Life + Husband's Email Affair = Angry Wife

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I recently learned that my husband has been exchanging sexual emails with a woman he went to high school with and recently reconnected with on Facebook. I learned of the emails because the woman involved shared some of the emails with a friend of hers who happens to be friends with the sister of an old friend of mine. The information eventually got back to me. I have been with my husband, who is 10 years older than me, for 15 years (married 5.5 years), since I was 18 years old. I thought we were best friends–we spend most of our time together and get along well. Moreover, while we don’t have sex as often as I think we should, it is amazing when it does occur. I’m shocked, incredibly hurt, and humiliated by this information. He admits only to exchanging “flirty” emails with the woman after she started it and says he had no intention of cheating. I have no idea what to believe, do, or feel. Please help. Thanks. – CyberCheater’s Wife

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The Real Reason You're Being Cheated on – It Doesn't Involve Blowjobs

Sexual Infidelity Troubled Marriage Relationships

But, this “common knowledge” is actually an incredible fallacy. Yes, that’s right, I said this is a completely false “truth” about cheating. Despite what societal stereotypes report, the most common reason for infidelity is not sex. Yes, sex is more than likely involved, but the real reason is even more unlikely than you may think… and it starts in the heart.

The truth about cheating is that it’s not all sexual. Studies by experts such as Gary M. Neuman and Mira Kirschenbaum have determined that unfulfilled emotional needs, not sex, drive men to have emotional affairs or sexual infidelities.

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