Divorce Advice: How to Move On Sexually

Ready to Have Sex Again After a Bad Nasty Divorce from Your Cheating Husband? Think Again

 

Almost every woman’s had a breakup so bad she swears off men forever. You may have been one of those chicks too, changing your mind after that hot new hunk (and his 12-pack) came into your life. Now everything’s sailing smoothly, until you realize either of you desire to take it to the next level. Or maybe you’re still single, and not really ready to mingle, but you have a particularly intimate itch that’s begging to be scratched. Either way, you’re not sure if it’s time to have sex.

While to most people, the easiest answer is “Just do it,” the truth is, there’s just so much more to consider than whether or not he’ll be good in bed. Here are some questions to reflect upon while deciding whether you’re ready to have sex again:

-Are you ready for all the sexual attachment that may rear itself when you begin having regular sex romps on a “casual” basis?

- Can you deal with thoughts of where he is and what he’s doing when he’s not in your bed or returning your calls?

- Would you consider it cheating if he has sex with other women?

- Did your husband cheat on you? Did his affairs affect how you view sex, relationships and men? Are you using sex with someone else to “get back” at his infidelity?

- If he’s ready to emotionally connect to you, and used sex as a means to seduce you into a relationship, are you really willing to go there?

- Is the person you plan on sleeping with trustworthy?

- Do you think there’s any chance you will regret having sex with someone new, especially if you don’t know them?

- Are you having sex because you truly want to, or because you’re desperately seeking to cure your persistent feelings of loneliness? Are you trying to prove that you’re still sexually desirable?

- If you’re looking to have sex with your ex, how will you handle any feelings of false hope that may arise when your children assume Mommy and Daddy are getting back together? Additionally, how can you be sure your heart doesn’t become involved in the process?

We can’t give you all the answers but, we can reassure you that as long as life is treated like a learning experience, there really won’t be any wrong answers. Don’t let your divorce hold you back from finding and enjoying great sex. Now, should you decide to have sex, it’s only fitting we ask that you be sure you can trust the other person, practice mutually safe and enjoyable sex, and don’t be afraid to say no if you have to. Also, should you decide at any point you’re still not ready, don’t be afraid to focus all that sexual energy on yourself (*wink, wink*).

Divorce After Infidelity & Counseling

 

Divorce Counseling Can Help You

 

Going through a divorce can be a hard thing to go through, especially when something as rough as infidelity is involved.  It can be difficult to find the right road and get back on track to a normal and healthy life.  Sometimes people going through divorce find that things are harder to cope with when they are going through with the proceedings.  During times like these, counseling can be an option that helps them feel better emotionally and physically.

Doing what’s necessary to rebuild your life after divorce is crucial.  As a survivor, you must be willing to make the most of your life; if that means seeking professional assistance, then by all means do so.  You need not feel ashamed or embarrassed for this- it’s for your health and recovery, not anyone else’s. You are responsible for making sure that you stabilize your life so that you can find a way to live happily ever after, even if your ex-husband or wife is no longer with you.

There was never a guarantee that marriage would be the answer for happiness. Despite what we’re told, although you are promised the world when you marry someone, sometimes you end up losing more in the relationship, and end up feeling sad and alone if your marriage does not make it.  The divorce may or may not be your fault but either way, finding inner strength and resilience will get you past this rough period. 

During a divorce, it’s normal for people to find usual aspects of their daily routine hard to deal with. It’s normal to feel like being around old friends, family members or dealing with work can be a chore. It’s very easy to feel isolated or alone at this period. You may also find difficulty in taking on the challenges that you were once able to take care of without hesitation. 

This is why counseling is so important; the right counselor will help you smooth over the kinks in the rough patch, guiding you back on track and showing you insights about who you are becoming as a result of this life challenge.

Depending on where you’re located, it can be fairlyeasy to find someone to talk to. One of the best places to start is within your religious organization; counselors in your church or synagogue can assist you with guidance specifically tailored to your religious beliefs. If you’re an active duty military member or ex, you may still have access to Chaplain services, or Military Family Life Counseling. Check with community organizations as well; many times there are community workshops that are available for you to participate in that allow you to share your experiences and gain support.

Don’t forget about your friends and family either. While we understand it’s hard to be around anyone at this time, the team effort of support that you get from your family and friends will be a big help. Having dedicated people willing to help you through the difficult times is a blessing. Learn to accept help when you need it and advantage of all the love and support that they are offering; not everyone has resources like you may. And if you don’t have anyone around who’s interested and available to assist you, indulge yourself in uplifting and inspirational activities that will help you become strong on your own. Check out our resources, especially those in our Amazon store, to help you feel better day by day.

Remember, like all things in life, this too must and will pass. Keeping your eyes focused on what’s important instead of what could have been will allow you to stay in the present and look ahead to the future.

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