Sex Tips For Divorce After Infidelity
Enjoying an active and fulfilling sex life is of the biggest milestones you’ll have to overcome during or after your divorce after infidelity by a cheating husband. If your ex-husband cheated on you during your marriage, sex can trigger several emotional responses including fear of rejection and insecurity, not to mention confusion.
Simple Steps to Setting Guidelines for Sex After Divorce or Breakup
- 1. Fully evaluate whether you’re ready to experience sex. Are you truly capable of enjoying sexual intimacy at this stage in your life? If your ex-spouse cheated on you, feelings of sexual insecurity after being cheated on may subconsciously plague you, making sex with anyone more stressful than it should be.
2. Know what you want. Do you prefer the casual, emotionally detached nature of non-committal, no-strings-attached sex? Does the thought of a one night stand turn your stomach? Understanding your emotional personality and being true to it will help you avoid unnecessary emotional baggage, especially if you know you cannot handle a casual sexual experience.
3. Evaluate your emotional and sexual baggage. If you haven’t “let go” of your last relationship’s baggage, be aware sex with someone new can trigger more problems. You should also be aware of whether or not your desire to have sex is motivated by the need to feel sexually validated by someone new, or as a means of “getting back” at your ex. Neither are healthy reasons to have sex.
4. Have sex when you’re ready- and with someone you choose to. Pressure to “hurry up and get laid already” from your friends may be an effort to lift you out of your mood, but it can backfire quickly. The best sex happens when you’re comfortable and open to sex, ideally with someone you like and have a strong physical attraction to. Don’t give in to pressure, whether your partner’s or your peers, to have sex if it just doesn’t feel right. It’s not their business anyway.
5. Be aware of the pros – and cons – of sex with someone new. Sex with a new partner can remind you of how hot and desirable you really are, no matter what happened in your marriage. You’ll be reminded of how sexy and attractive you are; this is always a good thing, especially if you can separate sex from your emotions. However, if you’re not ready, there are tons of risks to having sex again. If you don’t have closure in your relationship, the potential for emotional baggage is high. You’ll also be at risk for sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) and pregnancy.
There’s no ideal timeline for when it is too early or too late to start enjoying sex after divorce; the timing for everyone varies according to individual needs and desires. Take as much or as little time as you need to, and remember to protect your body, mind and spirit at all times before anything else.
Need More Tips on Sex and Dating After Divorce?
If you’re a divorced man interested in finding true, faithful love after divorce from infidelity, check out Finding the Right One After Divorce: Avoiding the 13 Common Mistakes People Make in Remarriage by Edward Tauber and Jim Smoke.
If you’re a divorced woman who’s interested in discovering great secrets to successful dating after divorce, check out Back on Top: Fearless Dating After Divorce by Ginger Emas.
