Face Off!: Confront Cheating Husband’s Mistress with Unfair Advantage
Marital infidelity of a cheating husband can only be made worse by a confrontation with the mistress.
It’s every wife’s worst nightmare: to find out that your husband is cheating on you, and then actually meeting the asshole’s mistress when she one day suddenly stands on your doorstep with a self-satisfied smirk on her face, ready to spill the beans on your philandering hubby. Assuming that your husband is not a complete scoundrel before this episode, you’re likely to be shocked, hurt and betrayed.
That’s a really harsh and traumatizing experience to deal with right there, but you can definitely keep your cool. Here are some things to keep in mind during this encounter, and when you actually get to speak to your husband about the whole affair. These tips will give you an unfair advantage: coolness beyond measure that will only put these two even further over the edge.
Cheating Husband and Mistress: 3 Ways to Stay Level During Confrontation
1. Don’t Get Physical: Whoever Throws that First Punch is the LOSER
Now, during this experience, all your emotions are raging inside you and there’s nothing more that you would like to do than reach over and wipe that smirk off her face, preferably with something from your tool shed. However, keep in mind that this is a very explosive situation, one that can turn violent very fast. If you become physical, cops will most likely become involved, and you’ll get in trouble for being the first to throw a punch. Sure, you can claim diminished emotional capacity, but there’s a chance that the judge will side with the woman with a broken and bleeding face rather than the raging harpy on the other side. Fantasizing about assaulting your cheating husband and/or his slutty mistress is fine, but actually crossing these thoughts over into the threshold of reality, is most definitely not.
2. Treat it Like a Court Case
Just as the American court system believes in the mantra “innocent until proven guilty,” give your cheating husband the benefit of the doubt. No matter how believable the mistress’s story is, simply nod politely and pleasantly ask if she has any tangible proof. Digital evidence, such as texts, emails and pictures, may be helpful, but that aren’t always reliable because they can be faked. (And, I must add, if the woman really wants to screw with your marriage for whatever reason, there’s no lows she will not drop down to.) However, there are some types of evidence that you really have to take at face value, such as credit card receipts and videos. Be cautioned however, the arrival of undeniable proof is painful and gut-wrenching, but you must try and gather everything you can to be as informed as possible. Politely thank the other woman once you’ve gotten all you need to know and dismiss her politely as possible ASAP!
Discovery of a husband cheating is painful, but hold the tears until the truth is confirmed.
3. Getting the Cat out of the Sack
Inevitable confrontation between you and your cheating husband is now at hand. His reaction and answers will indicate to you whether your marriage is in trouble or not. Maybe the whole thing was just an elaborate scheme by a crazy woman, or maybe your husband was having a sexual or emotional affair behind your back. The bottom line is, it’ll be up to you whether or not you still want to try to save your marriage after your cheating husband’s affair. Sure, you’ll be influenced somewhat by your husband’s reaction- which can range from groveling for forgiveness, to actually being proud or nonchalant about the affair- but never let that be the strongest basis for your decision. Let that answer come from your heart.
Cheating Husbands vs. Serial Cheating Husbands
A word of warning for wives out there with wandering husbands: There is such a thing as a serial cheater, and honestly, once IS too much. Don’t get swayed with the repetitive promises of change and contrition in your husband. A cheating husband will only continue cheating as long as he thinks he can get away with it. If your gut tells you it’s enough, listen to it and show him the door!
