What is a Down Low Man?
Picturing your man in the arms of another can completely destroy you – but try discovering that he’s been with another man, not a woman. Then what? How could you deal with that?
Many women find themselves shocked, speechless and even disgusted to find out that their lovers engage in homosexual infidelity, especially when they’ve never claimed to be homosexual or bisexual.
J. L. King Describes the Down Low Mentality
Author J. L. King, exposed this phenomenon back in 2004 with his book, On the Down Low. King states down low men come from all walks of life and cannot be “picked” out of a lineup, no matter what any person says. “DL men are part of the daily lives of all of us; they don’t stand out and can’t be picked out of a lineup or even if they’re standing in front of you.”
Down Low Men Abhor Gay and Bisexual Lifestyles
DL men do not believe they’re homosexual; in fact, many abhor and detest homosexuality or anything close to it. They don’t need or want their sexuality questioned, especially by the women in their lives. They feel they are the furthest thing from gay.
Sounds confusing, right?
Well, not in their minds. DL men don’t feel they live an openly gay lifestyle, and attribute their “homosexual” behavior as pure, “unadulterated, freaky sex” that just happens to be with another man.
King states that DL men feel they “don’t fit the stereotypical image of gay men that the media has portrayed. Gays march in parades, hang out at gay clubs, and may have gay flags on their homes and cars.” He adds that most gay men have a distinct ability to describe how they want their partners to be and what attracts them, whereas down low men are usually purely in it for the sex.
Regardless of whether it was with a man or a woman, if you’re husband or partner cheated on you, it’s imperative that you get checked out as soon as possible. Your health is the most vital treasure you can have in your life, and life is precious. Get tested, even if you’re not sure he’s been cheating, and wear condoms if you’re not sure he’s been completely faithful.
