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Your husband’s mistress is aware of the fact that you know about her sexual affair with your husband. She’s also aware that you two are reconciling, and that there isn’t any room for her in your husband’s life anymore. Despite this information, she is adamant about having a place in his life, creating opportunities for small talk between them, and even tries to seduce him to give it another try. You tell your husband that he needs to tell her to get over it and leave him alone, but he accuses you of making a big deal out of nothing.
Your husband’s mistress is aware of the fact that you know about her sexual affair with your husband. She’s also aware that you two are reconciling, and that there isn’t any room for her in your husband’s life anymore. Despite this information, she is adamant about having a place in his life, creating opportunities for small talk between them, and even tries to seduce him to give it another try. You tell your husband that he needs to tell her to get over it and leave him alone, but he accuses you of making a big deal out of nothing.If his reaction pisses you off, this is understandable. Why would anyone think your reaction is anything but justified considering the history between these two, nevermind the fact that she’s still trying to sleep with him? However, you have to take a look at your husband’s behavior. Is he encouraging the other woman’s behavior? Does he still talk to her on the phone, email her or act in a manner that would send a message saying that it’s only a “matter of time” before he’s back in her arms? If so, then you might want to discuss why he’s still so pleasant with her, and see if you need to be on guard. His pleasantries don’t guarantee that he’ll cheat again but they can be a strong signal to watch out for him.
If it appears your husband does not entertain this woman’s insistent cries for attention, then continue to encourage his good behavior. You must put your faith on a limb and learn to trust him again, especially if he’s putting in the work worthy of him doing so. As he reports what she does, be grateful and thankful for his honesty in approaching you to update you. Ignore her, as she most likely wants to know that she still has an effect on your relationship and may revel in this knowledge.
Should you find that your husband’s former mistress won’t let up and you still wish to confront her, try to approach her in a calm, level-headed manner. If she becomes abrasive, rude or just otherwise shows you that she doesn’t care about your marriage, then it will have to be up to your husband to set the record straight. If this is an office romance, then you’ll probably have to ask him to confront his supervisors (although this can make for a sticky situation at work). Hopefully, your husband will realize that his cheating has lingering effects and will finally bite the bullet and do whatever’s necessary to get – and keep- this obssessed woman out of your lives. Now if you find out he’s actually been still messing with her and actively leading the both of you on…
