“I Always Think About My Cheating Spouse’s Sexual Affair”

Even though it's in the past, your cheating man's sexual affair still lingers in your mind.

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You’re always bringing up his sexual affair, and wish he would bring up the infidelity as a conversation piece so you didn’t always appear to be the one thinking about it all the time. Months later, the only time his affair comes up in conversation is when you mention it, especially when you’re having another one of “those days.” As it stands, you find you’re more and more frustrated by what you perceive is his lack of sympathy for you, especially when he knows why you’re so obsessed with it.

Try looking at this issue from a male viewpoint. When men fight with one another, they give the offended party space and allow the offended party to step forward and make contact about the events which caused strife. In his cue book, your husband isn’t being insensitive or hateful; instead, he’s giving you space and avoiding the topic in order to avoid triggering you at the wrong time. (And, quite frankly, he still doesn’t want to think about what he did, especially if he’s sorry.)

Is your husband showing you, in as many ways as he can, that he’s sorry for what he put you through by cheating on you, words notwithstanding? If so, then speak with him explicitly, and let him know what you want him to do when you have these moments. Tell him you’d like him to initiate more conversations about his infidelity, or give you comfort when you become emotionally preoccupied with your hurt due to his affair