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Infidelity Conversation 1: He Doesn’t Apologize Enough for Cheating

“Husband Cheated, but He’s Sick of Apologizing”

You don’t know how many times you need your wayward husband to apologize for cheating on you, but once damn sure isn’t enough. You don’t care if he has to tell you he’s sorry every hour on the hour, but he’s angry and insists he’s apologized more than enough times for his infidelity, and doesn’t feel a need to repeat this.

Most cheating men feel apologies are the first step to reconciliation and are ready to move forward once they’ve issued one. Once they’ve apologized, men also don’t want to drag out the apology, but many women want to talk about what happened and why the apology was necessary to begin with. If a man feels that providing you another apology is a gateway to bringing up the past (something most men hate), then he’ll resist giving one so that he doesn’t have to rehash all the details of his affair once more.

Of course, it’s wise for a cheating husband to apologize to his wife for cheating on her, but ultimately, his actions must speak louder than words. Look for your husband to show that he’s sorry with his actions instead of his sweet apologies. Ways men apologize include helping out more around the house, buying lavish gifts or running errands.

If you feel the need to talk to him about apologizing more often, then simply tell your husband that his apologies serve to assure you of his love for you, and don’t represent a lack of belief in his past ones. Reinforce that you want periodic reassurances of his love to remind you of his love and to show he does care about his infidelity’s impact on you and the relationship.

  • Scrappydoo

    This is not good advice. If you require someone to repeat an apology over and over again, beyond what they feel is necessary given that it is only a gesture and not necessarily true contrition, they will resent you for it. Eventually they will stop being sorry. I'm not sure of a way around this, so I have no alternative solution. Sorry.

    • admin


      I actually agree with you. I tell women that it's great that someone apologizes, but the best recourse is to look at their actions. Actions speak louder than words… so if someone says sorry but their attitude doesn't convey this remorse, then the situation is extremely… unlikely to have positive recourse.

      I also believe forcing someone to apologize repeatedly also allows that person to become less sincere over their apology.

      The only solution is to accept this person's behavior and what is tells you. Are they really sorry? Are you really willing to work it out? If they cheat again, will you be prepared to leave, or still willing to stay? The only people who know how the relationship will go are the two people within it.

      Thanks for your response. :)