Making Love Work After Infidelity
Even if he cheated, you can move on, especially if the infidelity doesn’t bother you.
Okay, so your man was doing a little bit of creeping. He’s come clean, or you’ve caught him in the act. Either way, all of the dirty laundry has been aired and it’s now time to determine what you are going to do about it. It may be over for the two of you, but if you do decide that things can be worked out, there are a few important things for you to remember.
The most important thing in any relationship, (but particularly struggling relationships) is COMMUNICATION! You need to sit down with your guy and really listen to each other say how you feel about what has gone on. You need to talk about where each one of you sees the relationship going, and what you each feel like you need. This may be an incredibly difficult conversation to have, so if you feel overwhelmed, bring in a couple’s counselor to help mediate.
Work with your hubby to restore the romance in your relationship. Go on a few real dates, surprise each other every once in a while. Another good exercise is for each of you to list the reasons you fell in love and read them to each other. It will help you remember why your relationship is worth fighting for, and it will help both of you to feel appreciated.
Remember that your relationship will not work if you do not actually forgive your husband for his mistake. Just saying that you forgive him will never be enough for your wounds to completely heal. It may take a little bit of time, but make sure you let your partner know you are trying, and don’t drag it out forever.
If you’re working it out, you have to do it right. Talk about things, seek mediation if necessary, reignite your passion for each other, and let the past be the past.
