My Husband is Cheating on Me! Now What?
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Discovering that your husband or boyfriend is cheating and having a sexual affair during your relationship sucks! At this point, you’re not just highly upset your husband cheated- no, you’re extremely pissed off with him for the deliberate crap he’s put you through. Not only have you been lied to, but the authenticity of the relationship itself is now in question.
Oftentimes, upon discovering your husband or boyfriend’s cheating, the first thing you ask yourself (and those around you) is, “What else did my man lie about?” Other questions you want answers to include whether he was ever truly honest with you, if this was first time he had an extramarital affair, and of course, “What the hell was he thinking!?”
Maybe you’ve caught him red-handed, and now he’s begging and pleading for forgiveness, giving you piss poor excuses about how “it was just this once,” or that he “made a mistake”. Perhaps he hasn’t yet come clean, or refuses to admit the truth but you’ve confirmed his behavior. If he’s a real dog, he might even be feeding you lines about how it was something you did or didn’t do.
Despite your situation, it doesn’t matter, because knowledge is power and you now have the power to dictate the outcome in your best interests. You’re out of the dark, so to speak, and you can make an informed decision to move on- with or without him. Sure, it’ll probably hurt like hell either way, but as with all things, while the memory is there forever, the pain fades with time.
He Cheated – Now What to Do When Sexual Affair is Revealed
Isolate yourself from your – the source of the pain – and allow yourself the opportunity to process, accept and deal with the news of your husband or boyfriend’s sexual affair. This is the time to release whatever emotions and reactions you have freely, and begin the process of healing, where you will decide whether to save your relationship or get a clean break.
Perhaps you may decide to stay to enjoy your cheating husband or boyfriend’s pitiful groveling and obedience (however long that lasts), initiate a trial separation, or gleefully run down to your lawyer’s office to file for divorce. Regardless of your decision, it shouldn’t be influenced by anyone but those you trust – with you having the last word on things. Even if you sit around when nobody’s around, dwelling on the situation and saying, “I can’t believe he cheated on me!,” do so when nobody else is around and as you move forward each day. You’re always that much closer to closure.
