Ready to Have Sex Again After a Bad Nasty Divorce from Your Cheating Husband? Think Again
Almost every woman’s had a breakup so bad she swears off men forever. This might have been you to after a nasty divorce after infidelity. You may have been one of those chicks too, but then you changed your mind after that hot new hunk (and his 12-pack) came into your life. Now everything’s sailing smoothly, and soon enough you desire to take it to the next level. Or maybe you’re still single, and not really ready to mingle, but you have a particularly intimate itch that’s begging to be scratched. Either way, you’re not sure if it’s time to have sex.
While to most people, the easiest answer is “Just do it,” the truth is, there’s just so much more to consider than whether or not he’ll be good in bed. Here are some questions to reflect upon while deciding whether you’re ready to have sex again:
-Are you ready for all the sexual attachment that may rear itself when you begin having regular sex romps on a “casual” basis?
- Can you deal with thoughts of where he is and what he’s doing when he’s not in your bed or returning your calls?
- Would you consider it cheating if he has sex with other women?
- Did your husband cheat on you? Did his affairs affect how you view sex, relationships and men? Are you using sex with someone else to “get back” at his infidelity?
- If he’s ready to emotionally connect to you, and used sex as a means to seduce you into a relationship, are you really willing to go there?
- Is the person you plan on sleeping with trustworthy?
- Do you think there’s any chance you will regret having sex with someone new, especially if you don’t know them?
- Are you having sex because you truly want to, or because you’re desperately seeking to cure your persistent feelings of loneliness? Are you trying to prove that you’re still sexually desirable?
- If you’re looking to have sex with your ex, how will you handle any feelings of false hope that may arise when your children assume Mommy and Daddy are getting back together? Additionally, how can you be sure your heart doesn’t become involved in the process?
We can’t give you all the answers but, we can reassure you that as long as life is treated like a learning experience, there really won’t be any wrong answers. Don’t let a divorce after infidelity hold you back from finding and enjoying great sex. Now, should you decide to have sex, it’s only fitting we ask that you be sure you can trust the other person, practice mutually safe and enjoyable sex, and don’t be afraid to say no if you have to. Also, should you decide at any point you’re still not ready, don’t be afraid to focus all that sexual energy on yourself (*wink, wink*).
