Husband’s Cheating Reignited Sexual Passion in Marriage
Daniel and Jennifer have been together for six years, two married and four dating. Even though they really love each other, Daniel feels their sex life has died. Sex has gone from occurring three or four times a week to less than a few times a month. Additionally, the energy and passion isn’t there as much either. Despite the repeated attempts to spice up their marriage, nothing works, and Daniel starts an affair with a woman he meets on Craigslist.
The sex is alright, but it’s still not as exciting as Daniel would like. However, he still continues to see this other woman while he attempts to reconcile his passion with Jennifer.
It’s not long before Jennifer notices a change in Daniel’s behavior, and discovers his affair. While she’s hurt, and quite frankly pissed off, Jennifer cannot help but to feel extremely attracted to Daniel. She hates him for cheating on her, but at the same time she can’t keep her hands off him. Daniel’s infidelity has sparked an intense sexual, romantic reawakening between the couple that has been missing for a long time.
Why Does a Competitive Sexual Affair Happen?
As crazy as this situation sounds, many men cheat on their wives because of the desire to reconnect with their spouses. Relationships are continuous work for many people because they tend to “fall into a rut” with one another and let the sexual chemistry fizzle.
While this isn’t a guaranteed response for every discovered infidelity, it works often enough that most people have experienced it in some form. Perhaps your husband ignores you until he sees another man giving you what he feels is “special” attention; later on, he tries to put the moves on you. Perhaps you notice that whenever another man looks your way, your husband becomes a little more territorial than usual.
There are dozens of reasons why cheating or the threat of cheating can arouse sexual chemistry. Many people cite reasons such as the kinkiness of the situation; fear of losing their lover; or the need for anything to spice things up. One frequent reason discussed is competition; nobody wants to lose against someone else. One cheating husband once stated, “Competition breeds great service.”
Dealing with Competitive Sexual Infidelity
Although the flames of passion have been reignited, it’s not enough to get through this infidelity. Once the flames die down, you will still need to work through the poor communication which eventually led to sexual infidelity. You must handle the relationship with kid gloves now, and work to communicate with your spouse on the consequences of the adultery and save the marriage.
