Sexual Infidelity: Break Up Since He Cheated on Me?
Whenever sexual infidelity is revealed in any relationship, the most popular assumption is that the love is gone between the original couple. If he really loved me, scorned women think, then he wouldn’t have done this. He would have remained completely devoted to me. Unfortunately, the truth is otherwise. An overwhelming majority of married (or otherwise attached) men who cheat on their women describe themselves as “happily” involved. Smaller percentages of men may insist that their sex life “at home” is great as well, but that they cheated for various reasons, from the fact that sex was offered to simply the desire to “chase tail.” While the primary motivations for sexual infidelity vary, it’s important to note that a strong percentage of men who stray truly care for their partners, and don’t wish to leave. (As if you didn’t know this by now with all his begging and pleading.) Truth be told, cheating partners usually just aren’t satisfied with some aspect of themselves, or their lives “at home” and sexual infidelity becomes the painful outlet through which this is expressed. Other times, when a cheating partner doesn’t care, then it’s evidenced in their all-around disregard for the relationship – even without cheating, the signs would be there.
Sexual Infidelity Doesn’t HAVE to Mean It’s Over
Though most consider catching a partner cheating is a sign that the relationship’s over, cheating itself is not a deal breaker. Ending a relationship because someone cheats is an individual choice made by the affected party. To put it more clearly, just because a person cheated, does not mean they wanted the relationship to end. A relationship ending can be the result of cheating, but it is not a universal rule. Many couples experience sexual infidelity and decide to put in the hard work and effort to repair their relationship. So, now that you or your partner committed sexual infidelity, is the relationship over? That’s not an answer we can provide. Nobody can tell you whether or not your relationship is over. This is the sole decision for you and your partner to make, as you are the ones deeply affected by the decision post -sexual infidelity. Even if outside advice or opinions are provided, you aren’t required to abide by them. Talk with your partner in order to determine the outcome most favorable for the both of you.
